Hello! Thanks for taking the time to read my profile. Yeah, I know it's long, but I've learned to get everything out on the table right away. If at any point, you find yourself screaming "Noooo, NOT HIM, DEAR GOD, ANYONE BUT HIM!," that's OK...and if you find yourself intrigued and curious about possibilities, well, that's even better!
[U]I am a human, not mere equipment[/U]...and the same goes for you. Horny though we may be, I am not "cock," and you are not "pussy." We are entire people, and I refuse to act as though we are not, even here. If you either define yourself primarily by or are seeking mostly a specific age, height, weight, size, color, or type, I'm most likely not for you. Yes, I realize we all have preferences, including me, and I sincerely want you to have what you want, whether I like your preferences or not. That being said, to be honest I'm looking for folks who are weary of the sort of shopping for body parts vibe that pervades dating sites. If you're looking for a human with whom to share some joy and affection and maybe even sex, here I am. If you want a bunch of numbers...well, I'm sure there are plenty of guys here who will wave measurements and pictures of their dicks at you. That's not my thing.
[U]Believe it or not, I'd rather see your face first than your tits, etc.[/U] Yeah, I know, lots of males in our society are freaking obsessed with tits and ass, but...For me, a nice, real, natural woman, regardless of the visibility (or not) of tits, is one of the most beautiful sights in the world. To me, showing your true face here--not a mouth to show you can suck, not a darkly half-hidden "discreet" face, but an honest-to-goddess [I]face[/I]--is much sexier than all the posing and tits and heels. I'd like to see you as I would likely first meet you, and I doubt I'll meet you tits-first or ass-first.
[U]I am visually impaired.[/U] Mostly this means that I cannot drive, so if I come to you I'll be using public transit. My visual impairment does not define me, and in fact I can see better than most people assume I can once they find I'm visually impaired, because there's such an assumption that "visually impaired = blind." They are not the same thing. I will be able to see you when we're face-to-face, and yes, if you have photos, I can see them.
[U]Sex is natural, not naughty![/U] If you consider sex to be "naughty" or "dirty," even if you'll do it anyway, I'm probably not for you. I'm seeking someone(s) who are past trying to be "nice" or "naughty" and are at the point where they can just enjoy each other's affection. I guess it's not so much about being "vanilla" as just not digging the power games, if that makes sense.
[U]I am neither dominant nor submissive.[/U] At all. I don't "switch" either. While I guess some of my sexual tastes aren't exactly "vanilla" (whatever the hell that even means anymore), there are more ways to be "kinky" than the power exchange stuff. Hey, I know! Let's roleplay! I'll just be me, and you be...Oh, I don't know, jeez, this is hard...You be--just you? Anyone else out there who [I]doesn't[/I] view sex and control/power as inextricably locked together? Anyone else turned on by spontaneous, non-hierarchical sex?
[U]I love love [I]love[/I] unshaven women who don't wear makeup or nail polish, and who dress for comfort rather than flash.[/U] Yeah, I know, that's not a very popular opinion, but I actually find I sexually prefer women who aren't afraid of having a bit of hair on themselves and don't fret over nails, hair, shoes, etc.
[U]I'm not particularly oral.[/U] However, I'd possibly explore oral sex more with the right person/people. I see a lot of people actually [I]require[/I] their partners to be oral, and I'm not seeking to waste anyone's time. Yes, it could happen, but I have to trust you really, really well first. Oh, gee, look at all the people bailing out right here............
[U]I'm 420-friendly, and would love to find others who have this in common with me.[/U] I'm sure these days most of us understand that this does not mean I'm some kind of horrible monster who will rob babies and eat banks to support a habit, but there are still misperceptions. As long as you're at least tolerant, we're good.
[U]I do not fit any of the standard "categories" on these sites[/U], and I have no intention of even pretending to do so. Yes, I'm horny. I wouldn't be here if I weren't, now would I? However, I am seeking someone(s) who are well-aligned with me, sexually and otherwise. My experience has shown me that sex--at least for most people--is restricted either to ensuring one's status in the hierarchy that is human society, acquiring trophies, ego-pumping, procreation, or selling a product (even if the product is ourselves). Sex that really, really is pure, simple, affectionate, "I like you, you like me, let's go!" seems to be highly frowned upon...and it's also exactly the sort of sex that I miss.
[U]Let's take things as they come instead of making it either "long-term" or "short-term" or "slow" or "fast.".[/U] To me, this is really more about depth than time. Sure, I always like it when someone chooses to stick around, but I'd also rather someone be with me because they want to be and not "Because It's Long-Term." I also like for partners to know they have freedom to stay or leave as they choose, but not "Because it's Short Term." The bottom line on this is, people are gonna do what people are gonna do. Yes, I am seeking maybe a bit more connection than most folks here, but I seek connections that promote freedom rather than restricting it, and not just for me.
[U]I love compersion, and hate jealousy.[/U] Yes, "compersion" is a word, and it means delighting in one's partners' pleasure/love with others, instead of being jealous about it. I've learned the hard way that I don't do well at all in situations where there's jealousy or drama, or where someone mistakes my dislike of jealousy for lack of caring. I do have a heart. It just doesn't happen to feel monogamous.
[U]I'm seeking, you know, humans--not roles.[/U] A lot of folks here will tell you they're queens, kings, princesses, knights, slaves, masters, mistresses, divas, rockstars, pornstars, or whatever else most people find impressive. Frankly, what I find impressive is being free of all that and just exploring each other as entire people. A lot of people say "no games" in their profiles, but how much does that really mean "no games" and how much does it mean "no games--except the ones [I[I[/I] want to play?" I just want the real you. That's the bottom line. I know we all have our favorite ways to perceive ourselves, but damn...The ones who stand out for me are the ones who just seem like people reaching out to each other.
[U]I'm cool with someone being in a truly open, responsible relationship, but not with cheating.[/U] I hope that if you are in an existing marriage or other commitment, it is either open--meaning all parties are OK with non-monogamy and are not merely tolerating it--or you have an exit strategy. While I don't believe in marriage or a bunch of labels and rules for myself, I am also [U]NOT[/U] here to break anyone's heart--not yours, his, hers, theirs, mine, or anyone else's!
[U]Honesty is really, really important to me.[/U] Dating sites have taught me to utterly loathe the word "discreet." I won't totally write you off if you have that word in your profile, but it is kind of an "uh-oh" when I see it, so I will ask what you mean by it. Of course I have respect for common sense privacy concerns--I won't stand on the street corner with a megaphone proclaiming that we had sex, don't worry!--but frankly the word "discreet" screams either "cheat" or "secrecy for the sake of secrecy," and I simply don't want to be a skeleton in anyone's closet. I also would prefer that your profile answers not be "fudged," i.e. fake age or flat-out fake location. Don't get me wrong--If you don't want your location known, I'm OK with an answer like "Somewhere," but please don't just lie and say you're somewhere you're not.
[U]Free thinkers, atheists, pagans, and others off the beaten philosophical/religious path are very, very welcome. Wrathful, jealous gods are not.[/U] I bring this up because I see so many people here who claim a religion which, like it or not, has rules against "fornication," and there's no way I'm going to have sex with someone who would consider it a sin, something to feel guilty about later. Authoritarian, repressive, or coercive religion and I do [I]not[/I] mix well at all (I have several horror stories). However, I am drawn to some forms of paganism and gnosticism, as well as good old stuffy atheism and rationalism. So...I don't make a particularly good anything-ist in this department. I question nearly every damned thing, even myself.
[U]I'm interested in sharing partners, as well as being shared.[/U] I have a close (hetero) male friend with whom I've shared a partner before. We occasionally have talked about doing that again, though nothing has come of it so far. I think ideally I'd like to find a group, cluster, tribe, or whatever the proper term is.
[U]I have a lot of non-sexual interests too![/U] Oh, damn, I said the dread dirty word "non-sexual" on a sex site!! Noooooooo!! Just a second...cock cunt fuck dick pussy blah blah blah...Oh, wow, much better, maybe I won't go to AFF hell now...Anyway, I love language, math, music, sci-fi, history, artsy stuff, and...while I can't say I exactly [I]love[/I] current events, I am a bit of a news junkie.
My Ideal Person All the multiple-choice "factory specification" stuff is utterly secondary to me. I don't care how much money your wallet makes, how tall/short your ruler is, how much your bathroom scale weighs, whether your television looks like a supermodel, where your resume works, when your birth certificate was born, or whether your degrees finished college (The entire Earth can be your school, and I respect wisdom more than credentials). I do care that you be a real, caring, affectionate, creative, self-aware, evolving, and self-accepting person who dares to live, love, and feel as you will without having to step on others. If you often feel like a color without a name, you're curious about the world around you, you think/feel deeply, your path veers off the main stream by conscious choice, and you can love without jealousy, we'll probably have quite a lot to start with. Appearance-wise, I find I'm most attracted to women who just look like their natural selves and don't wear makeup or shave (up there, down there, or anywhere, ha ha). Maybe I'd better really emphasize that I'm especially seeking someone(s) who are done, done,
done worrying about appearance at all, aside from being clean and healthy. I know, sounds weird, but that's me; I freaking hate when people worry over stuff like that.
Tell one of your favorite sexual fantasies. Don't hold back!:
I'm sitting at the bus stop, waiting to catch my bus
and go to work. No one else is there, and either I missed the
bus or it's late. Just when I'm about to go find
a cab, a woman sits down next to me on the bench, and the first
thing I notice is just how real she is--no makeup, no perfume
except her own natural smell, plainly dressed in jeans
or something. She's basically neither hiding nor
flaunting anything really, not trying to impress, just
a natural person. <br><br>
We look over at each other and smile, and she asks if I know
what time the bus arrives. I tell her, she thanks me. I say
"Sure, " and we sit for a few minutes, occasionally
glancing at each other. After a few minutes, we find ourselves
moving closer together on the bench, and neither can really
tell at first whether the other really intends that or not.
<br><br>
I reach for something--a book, my phone, whatever--and
my hand accidentally brushes her thigh. <br><br>
I say "Oops, excuse me." <br><br>
She smiles brightly and says "It's OK."
<br><br>
Another minute goes by, and I suddenly notice she's
sitting right against me, her hand on my back. When did that
happen?, I think. I turn and see that she's looking
at me very intently. <br><br>
"Did you really want to go to work today?, " she
asks. <br><br>
"Hell, no, " I say, and we laugh, maybe feeling
a little awkward. <br><br>
"Neither did I, " she says, and then I notice
she's moved her hand so her fingers are just barely
inside my pants. "No underwear, eh?, " she asks.
<br><br>
"I rarely bother with it, " I reply, "unless
it's just too cold to go without." <br><br>
"Makes sense. One less layer to take off, " she
says, and places her other hand on my thigh. <br><br>
"Uh, " I say, "not that I'd planned
to take my pants off just yet but..." <br><br>
"No? Really?, " she asks, chuckling, "Well,
maybe we can change that." She grins a wide, mischievous
grin. <br><br>
"Want to meet after work?, " I ask, already feeling
my dick getting a little stiff. <br><br>
She laughs. "You said you didn't want to go to
work, " she says, and begins moving her hand slowly
around to the front of my jeans, her fingers still just inside
the waistband. <br><br>
"I don't, but...um..." I'm aroused
and nervous at the same time. <br><br>
Suddenly her hand brushes my dick lightly, causing it to
get even stiffer. "Don't worry, " she says,
"I don't see anyone else coming. I bet the only
ones coming will be...us." She unzips my fly. <br><br>
Tentatively, I reach for her, and we fall into each other,
touching, caressing, exploring. Our hands seem to be everywhere
at once, touching thighs, legs, faces, chests, breasts,
unbuttoning each other's clothes. Before either
of us is even really aware of what's happening, our
clothes are in a tangled pile under the bench, and we're
in a naked tangled pile on the bench, touching, kissing,
and fondling. <br><br>
"Let's find a comfortable place though, "
I say, "The bench might be a little hard for this."
I take her hand and we walk around behind the Metro station,
where the ground is soft and grassy. I start noticing it's
rather odd that no one seems to be around, but I don't
give it much thought yet. <br><br>
We resume our tangled explorations on the soft warm grass,
beginning to sweat a little. She straddles me and we start
moving, slowly at first, then increasing to a fevered pitch
until we're humping like mad rabbits. We come simultaneously
and collapse in each other's arms, panting for breath.
<br><br>
Suddenly I hear voices. We'd been so intent on each
other that we didn't notice the crowd that is now gathered
around, watching what we're doing. Nobody seems offended,
scared, or even impressed. All of them just look astonished.
I hear more clearly what people are saying now. <br><br>
"Right there, they just started fucking!...No,
don't call security, they're not hurting anybody...I
didn't think people really did that!..." Suddenly,
I catch a glimpse of a few other nude people, and then I see
that some of them are all over each other as well. It seems
rush hour has dissolved into a community orgy. <br><br>
Not many people go to work that day. Most of us spend the morning
behind the station, sharing and swapping, exploring and
experimenting. News of the event spreads, and it seems
that most people who hear of it join in, until that one hill
has no more room and it spreads. <br><br>
By the evening, conservative churches have started disbanding,
soldiers are abandoning weapons, closeted people are
coming out, and global tensions are generally easing.
By dinnertime, world peace is declared. <br><br>
The End
What types of sexual activities turn you on?:
Threesomes, Mutual Masturbation, Massage
What factors are most important to you when looking for a sexual partner?:
Open to ménage à trois and/or orgies, Sexual appetite, Actual caring, real independent thought
Ever fantasized about having sex with a celebrity? Who? What turns you on about them?:
Guh. I pretty much hate celebrity culture.
Have you ever had cybersex?:
No way. I only want skin on skin.
